余醫生運用四步驟想種出一個伴侶,一間美好的房子卻意外來到他的生命裡

Dr. Yu still hopes to plant a partner with the four steps, yet a lovely house has landed in his life unexpectedly

擔任耳鼻喉科的余醫生有個特別的外號叫:「跑哥!」通常一小時的訪談,因為今天他必須「跑」去做星巴客四步驟,將它濃縮成40分鐘。不僅如此,他還常常服務種子讀書會當跑工,穿梭在大街小巷,他總是盡力配合大家的需求為讀書會服務。今天難得靜下來跟我們分享種子法則帶給他的一間房子,而且是出乎意料美好的房子,價錢啊!房子裡面細心的設計讓跑哥極其滿意。跑哥說:「當種子要開花你擋不住的,就像這間房子的出現都很強勢,順其自然地我就接受一間很棒的房子來到我生命裡!」停頓不到二秒「我的目標」跑哥開口,靦腆但不失沈穩的口氣:「我的目標是想種伴侶的!但是房子的出現呢,讓我對種子法則很有感覺!我相信伴侶也快出現了。」這是一個很有趣的故事。

Otorhinolaryngology specialist Dr. Yu has an interesting nickname: “Runner”. He has requested that this hour-long interview be finished within 40 minutes because he will run to Starbucks and do the 4 steps afterwards. He also needs to run some errands for his friends in the Monk Meets the Diamond book club, he always tries his best to take care of them.

Today we have a rare opportunity to sit down with him and listen to his story of an unexpected house which he manifested with a four-step plan. According to him, this wonderful house came with refined decor at an unbelievably good price. He says, “When the seeds ripen, you cannot stop them. This house came to me naturally. Actually, my goal was…,” he pauses in silence with a hint of embarrassment.

“My goal was to plant a partner. However, the fact that this house manifested makes me believe that my partner will soon arrive.”

在我們印象中醫生這個職業不乏主動來相親的人,而余醫生也不例外的參加幾次相親或聯誼,但始終沒有遇到符合心目中條件的女生,或者有,但又像一陣風從他身邊溜走。2019年3月他開始參加格西老師的課程,中間還跑到台北參加讀書會,南北穿梭他好像也不累。同年7月參加台灣主辦方的四步驟實戰班,這下可是要來真的了!因為它叫實戰班呢。

Doctor is a profession which appeals to women when it comes to marriage. Women take initiative to meet him. Like other fellow doctors, people tried to set Dr. Yu up on dates, and he has tried to meet people with the help of matchmakers. And yet the lady of his dreams has still not shown up. Sometimes a seemingly ideal woman would appear, but soon would be gone. Since March 2019, he started to attend Geshe Michael’s talks, then joined a Monk Meets the Diamond book club in Taipei.
The book club gathers weekly, so he frequently travels between his home, the clinic in South, and the book club in the North, but he never seems to be tired. In July, he registered for the Taipei four-step workshop offered by the Taiwanese organizer and was ready to put the theory into practice.

《四步驟第一步你要有明確的目標》—「利它的動機」,他笑笑,我其實也沒有很急著要一間房子,只是想到父母年紀大,家裡最好有無障礙設備,租房子我就沒辦法敲敲打打,我其實心裡也不急啦!即使到現在房子買了父母也還沒搬進來啊。

“Regarding the four steps, the first step is to have to have a clear goal.” He recollected. “It has to come from an altruistic motivation.” He smiled and continued, “I was not that desperate to own a house, but I realized my parents were getting old. In order to meet their needs, I wanted to find a place and convert it into a senior friendly home. I could not do that with a rental. I was not in a hurry at all. My parents still haven’t moved in yet although the house is available now.”

《四步驟第二步與第三步》— 他重頭來過,現在他要細數他如何幫助業力夥伴也得到相同的東西—房子,而且還要是價錢滿意、全新的房子喔!第一個我幫忙台南讀書會尋找教室,—「這就是種下一個空間的種子啊!」透過採訪,他好像也能回頭去想自己種了什麼種子,為什麼美好的房子就這樣強勢降臨了!他繼續說:「我每天,都捐10元給心義工團體,它們是幫助窮人蓋房子的。」嗯。而且一邊投錢,我就一邊咖啡冥想了!

For “Steps two and three,” he recounted how he helped his karmic partner to get the same thing—a house, a brand-new one, with a good price! The first seed I planted was to help look for a space for the Tainan book club. “That was the seed to plant a space.”

跑哥每天捐款10元,積沙成塔幫助窮人蓋房子

其實我也沒有很複雜的冥想,蠻簡單的希望沒錢的人有房子住,很單純的想而己。「平常就隨喜他人成交!我也常常去台北搭計程車,通常我給錢的時候都會給整數,司機都會得到額外的小費,還有,幫忙募款,喔!還有,桃園有一個啟智中心需要蓋房子我也捐款了!」對,我也捐了錢,他重覆。像是唱盤上的針壓滑過,他的記憶開始從頭撥放,有一個最特別的,讓他印象深刻的、關於空間的種子,他回想起。

This interview is an opportunity for him to review the seeds he planted and why such a beautiful house came in such a powerful way. He went on to say, “Every day, I donate 10 NT to New Taiwan Volunteer Group. They build houses for the poor. I do coffee meditation when I put the coins in the jar! It’s not that complicated. I simply hope that low income families can have a place to live. It’s just a simple wish. In addition, I celebrate others’ success when they make a deal. When I go to Taipei and take a taxi, I usually ask the driver to keep the change when I pay. I also supported and helped with the fundraising for a project that is building a space for the mentally challenged.”

患難時刻的種子極具威力

金剛商學院第四階課程他與同學去了香港,要結束當天臨時機場關閉,同行一共 10 幾個人決定從澳門回台灣,晚上必須再額外花錢住宿,這對某些人來說又是另一個負擔,跑哥真的說中了很多人的心情。當天,他負責到飯店櫃檯幫大家辦入住手續,從皮夾裡拿出信用卡把當天10幾個人的住宿費給刷了。金額沒有很多,大約 2 萬多塊台幣,「但是也解決了大家當天住的困難了。」他的聲線依舊沒有很戲劇性的起伏,但咬字清楚又沈穩讓人覺得他是個很棒的好人。

The seeds planted in a difficult time are extremely powerful.

He attended a DCI level 4 workshop with his classmates in Hong Kong. On the day they planned to return to Taiwan, the airport was shut down. The group of Taiwanese students decided to transfer back home from Macau instead. This situation cost them extra for accommodation, which was an additional financial burden for some of them. Runner described how everyone felt disheartened.

He helped the group to check-in and paid everyone’s accommodation with his credit card. It was not much to him, just around 20, 000 NTD (about 700-900SD). “It solved their problem of needing a space.” He recalled casually. This matter-of-fact attitude adds to his charm.


訪談途中,他重覆寫下他種出房子的關鍵種子並且傳到LineDuring the interview, he wrote down the key seeds that he planted to plant the house and shared the information to Line.


從跑哥家頂樓拍出去的廣闊的視野The panorama view from the top floor of Runner’s house.

美好的房子強勢來到了

跑哥回憶起格西老師教導的,種種子要放鬆且好玩。「我真的沒想到這個房子比我想像中的好很多!」像現在,我父母其實都還沒搬進來新房子,我希望有一間房子,但我很放鬆。去年仲介非常極積的帶我看房子,我則是隨緣就好!看上了一間房子,下了斡旋金二次,後來屋主不願意降價,我開的價錢真的比較低,仲介也要把斡旋金退回來「我連帳號都傳給他了!」跑哥繼續說:「沒想到隔天仲介傳 Line 說恭喜你成交了!」屋主願意降價出售全新的房子給我,我也蠻意外的,只能說這種子要花開的時候也真強勢,我很放鬆啊!我是一路被推到享受這個房子的。再仔細琢磨才發現設計師很細膩,關於房子很多細節都照顧,好貼心!這間房子給他的感覺就像空中的煙火帶給他驚喜連連。

The wonderful house that arrived in a powerful way

Runner recalled Geshe Michael said the best way to plant seeds is to relax and to have fun!

“This wonderful house is simply beyond anything I could have imagined!” exclaimed Dr. Yu. He continues, “I was hoping to have a house, not with desperation, but relaxation. Last year, the real estate agent was very proactive and kept showing me different places. I would just go with the flow. Finally, I found one that I liked and put down a security deposit, and later added even more money. The owner did not agree with my counter offer and wanted to return the deposit to me. I got as far as sending him my bank account details to get them money back. But after just one night, the agent sent me a text and said “Congratulations! The house is yours now.”

“I was really surprised that the former owner agreed with my offer and then I could only agree that seeds can be very powerful when they ripen. I was never stressed about finding this house and really enjoyed the whole process. The more I stay there, the more I marvel about the designer’s attention to details. S/he is really thoughtful and considerate.” Speaking with joy, he gives a beautiful analogy: “My new home is like a brilliant firework show, full of wonders!”


跑哥原本希望廚房要有側拉空間,沒想到新房子設計師己經貼心附上了The panorama view from the top floor of Runner’s house.

當跑哥被問及關於貼心的種子時,他豪不猶豫,像是按下電源,電腦開始自動跑程式一樣順暢:「我對診所裡的員工、還有小病患都很貼心!」新冠肺炎時期我花錢添購了很多空氣濾靜器,還有提供口罩給員工,說到小病患他整個姿態更加溫柔,流露關切。

When asked about the seeds of consideration, he spoke without hesitation: “I treat employees and young patients in my clinic with care!”

“During the period of COVID, I bought a lot of air filters and provided face masks to the staff.” His expression softens with gentleness and care when speaking of his child patients.


這是跑哥替診所的孩子準備的糖果還有貼紙Candies and stickers that Runner prepared for the children in the clinic

放鬆且好玩的心情種種子

這一年跑哥落實種子法則的四步驟,他的心得就是目標明確,不要每天想種子什麼時候開花,幫助別人都要帶著放鬆且好玩的心情,不急不執著,當種子要開花的那一刻「我永遠相信來的會比你想像中的好更多更多!」,而且強勢到你必須接受這份美好,你想擋也擋不住的。

跑哥的故事雖然沒有如同八點檔般的戲劇性,但閉起眼,你依舊能感受到他穿梭在城市中幫助別人的忙碌,他讓我們相信種子是從生活中去落實的事情,小至貼紙的細微都在種種子,聽完跑哥的故事,你也打算用放鬆的心情去種種子了嗎?

Planting seeds in a relaxed and playful mood

To conclude Runner’s secrets of implementing the four steps, his tips are: have a clear goal, don’t worry, don’t rush, and don’t have attachment to the outcome. He believes that the result will be far better than what one can imagine when the seeds ripen—it will be too powerful to stop.

Runner’s story is not a dramatic happily ever after tale, but a down to earth one, about serving others’ needs in daily life. His story offers convincing evidence that the seed system is something that can be implemented in life. Even a small act like having stickers available for child patients counts. After listening to the story of Runner, will you consider planting seeds in a relaxed way?